In the last post, we were taking a look at Psalm 77 and considering what it had to teach us about our response the losses and hard places in our life. If you are just joining in this post- you will want to go back to the posts linked below to get caught up. Then you can join us again and things will make more sense.
This is the third post in a series called
Hope and Healing in the Holidays.
The first post:
Hope & Healing in the Holidays
The second post:
Have you noticed what you need this holiday?
But actually you might want to start here to get some background on where this series is going:
Looking at the BIG moments that Change Your Life
Let’s continue on in Psalm 77:7-9 to see another way he teaches us to respond. This is where the Psalmist, well, some people might say he was throwing a tantrum. But actually he is showing us how to get ‘unstuck’ by honestly EXPRESS our EMOTIONS.
Ok! Make a fist again. Open up the pinky finger from yesterday (NOTICE THE NEEDS) and this time open the ring finger as well to… Continue reading Say It Like It Really Is
The holidays often bring with them this expectation of sparkle. The tables are beautifully set, the food is perfectly delicious, the relationships with family and friends are glowing.
But just looking around my church this weekend, I saw face after face that told me that it wasn’t that way for everyone. Most homes are fortunate to get 1 or 2 out of 3, but the person who has all three- is probably not reading my website.
For many, the holidays only accentuate the awareness that things are not right, relationships are broken, money is tight. Life is not what you hoped it would be. Instead of the feelings of joy and delight, we feel fear and disappointment. The greater the expectation of sparkle, the deeper the funk we get in when it is not.
Instead of smiles and bright eyes, we often have furrowed brow and hands made into fists.
So how can we expect to find hope and healing in these holidays?
In my last post, (You can read it here) we talked about how our defining moments do not have to be those situations or losses in our life that we have no control over.
But we can do something about Continue reading Have you noticed what you need this holiday?
Days before Thanksgiving, I am noticing many people are writing or sharing posts and articles about ways to find hope and healing in the holidays.Honestly, the holidays are still one of the most difficult moments in my grief.
Our daughters, Caitlin and Brielle, come home – though often not at the same time. They are both married so we’ve also added two special son-in-laws. But when we are all together we are more aware than ever that Leisha is not among us.
After some earlier losses in life, I could still “manufacture” some of sparkle and gratitude of the holidays. I could still muster it mostly because I’m a positive person and I don’t have to work too hard to at least ‘appear’ happy.
But after Leisha died, it was not possible to even pretend to make that happen.
I’m sure I’ve shared this before, but for me grief was a feeling of being in a really dark tunnel where the mud was up past the top of my head and I couldn’t move a finger let alone breathe.
The harder I tried to get out the deeper I got Into the mire, into the mud, into the darkness.
Maybe you are reading this because you are Continue reading Hope & Healing in the Holidays