It started some interesting conversation at our house. No, it wasn’t the first time we had seen the Sealy© commercials (in case you haven’t seen them two of our favorites are AfterGlow Commercial or Mattress Apartment commercial ) But this particular evening, we were both in rare form.
You see, Sealy’s tagline is ‘whatever you do in bed, we support it’!
I bet you can begin to imagine some of the places we went with that. But it got me thinking. The commercials make things look so … positive! But I know for a fact that it isn’t always.
For one thing, so often our bedrooms serve multi-purposes. They become part office with books and computer finding space to land, or laundry room where folding needs to be done, or the catch all room for those things that need to be put away but haven’t yet. Hmmm?
For another thing, just because two people marry doesn’t mean their bodies are on the same clock as far as when they need to go to bed, or how long they need to sleep. That often brings up issues having to do with ‘the bed.’
And that’s not even mentioning all the other things that can distract us –
- One mate likes a little light on in the room- the other likes it dark
- One prefers to fall asleep with the tv on- the other likes quiet– and dark
- One has BRILLIANT ideas as she lays down in bed that she really must write down before she forgets
- The other is asleep almost before he closes his eyes.
- One wants to cuddle up as they fall asleep, the other just wants some space to spread out
All that brings up the issues that get discussed such as:
- Tomorrow’s schedules
- Today’s finances
- The kids and their concerns
- The in-laws and their concerns
- The fact that he doesn’t take out the trash
- The fact that she didn’t even act interested when he came home from working all day
- The way that he tries to ‘get playful’ all of the sudden
- The way she avoids his obvious intentions for sex
…You get what I mean!
What we do in bed isn’t always the romantic version Sealy supports. One quote I read the other day said, “For I’ve been born and I’ve been wed. All of man’s peril comes of bed.” Isn’t that the truth? We have a little spat that turns into a bigger deal at bed time. We have a bad day and take it out on the spouse and it is especially evident at bed time.
Sometimes it’s two people on opposite sides of the bed with their backs to each other and their hearts hardened to one another. They aren’t talking, but honey let me tell you- their silence is speaking volumes.
Sometimes it’s two people completely worn out and not connecting at all- all day- not to mention all night.
Sometimes it lasts for more than a night- or a week- or months.
Hmmm? So here’s my question?
Do you support everything that goes on in your bed?
…or even in your bedroom?
Think about that for a while!
- If you answer yes- check with your spouse and see if they feel the same way.
Are you willing to really listen to what they might have to share with you.
- If you answer no- what are you willing to do about it?
Either way, check back here- cause I’m hear to tell you there is hope! But we’ll talk about that next time.
Always remember- Your great marriage starts with YOU!