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A Close Up Look at THE Exquisite!

Last week I shared with you the wonderful word EXQUISITE. In that post, I defined the term and the different meanings associated with the word.  (You can go back to read that post here.)

I had every intention of writing a second blog post related to this because I wanted to think through a concept Jonathan Fields introduced at the TRIBEWRITER Conference I attended in September.

In our journey to hone our voice in writing, but also in our life work, we so often give out, put out, produce only to find ourselves going through the motions, but feeling a void; of running out of ideas, direction or energy.  That happens because we are not effectively refueling or putting back into ourselves.

Jonathan challenged us to develop an ‘inner key’ that is more about input rather than output.  He invited us to intentionally sit down with embodied teachers and go deep with them.  In one of those conversations he had with author Andy Forsthoefel that Jonathan found his “unlock KEY”. Andy walked across America and wrote the stories along the way in a book called Walking to Listen.

Jonathan asked Andy why he chose to walk all the way across America instead of just traveling to places to get some of the stories he shares in his book.  Andy responded that the walking allowed him to pay “exquisite attention” to world around him and the people in it.

That’s it! Exquisite attention – that is the unlock key!

At this point, Jonathan was already considered by most to be highly successful in his own right. The Good Life Project is a result of Jonathan’s life work.  He has books, a podcast, even summer camp for grown ups.  So much of what Jonathan was doing was working.  But when he heard Andy talk about EXQUISITE ATTENTION, he knew this was a missing piece.

Practicing being present,

curious

open

Letting go of what you expect to happen

embracing what is

Listening

Sensing

Mindful

Aware

With great awe in his voice, he described the benefits of being able to do that,  “everything becomes more vivid- more colorful.  Interactions become more authentic.”

Steve Jobs spoke of that practice as “something that makes the impossible possible.”

Here at Green Hope Coaching, I’ve talked a lot about the power of paying attention.  I’ve written blogs about it.  I’ve hosted groups like Tracing Hope and S.N.A.P. it to help bring in to focus those things that happen in our lives that stir us to the core. Create space to listen to what moments or people are speaking into us. Click To Tweet

I know the tremendous value in the  discipline of noticing. But paying EXQUISITE ATTENTION.   That moves the bar up —exponentially.

I wish I could give you all the examples Jonathan gave of ways that EXQUISITE ATTENTION changes lives.  But one example that peaked my interest was a research report related to marriage & divorce.

The results indicated that couples that divorced only notice 3 out of 10 of the attempts to connect made by the other spouse.  While couples that stay together notice 9 out of 10.

How much are you noticing in your marriage?  Just by paying EXQUISITE ATTENTION to your spouse, you are building a better marriage.

What else does EXQUISITE ATTENTION affect?

What kind of energy and attentiveness are you using to pay  EXQUISITE ATTENTION in…

Your life?
Your job?
Your relationships with family or friends?
or with God even?

What does EXQUISITE ATTENTION look like for you?

Ok- I’m going to stop there for now.  Three questions are my limit. (ok, I see I snuck in a few more.)  Pick one question and share your thoughts in the comments below.

How can we challenge each other to be EXQUISITE?
(AH! another question!)

I really want to hear what you think about this.


Finish this year in EXQUISITE fashion!

Register now for POWER HOUR to hone in on your ONE THING that you want to see done yet in 2017.

Click here
for more information.

 

Story to Share: Patron’s Last Words

This is Part 4 of 4 in a series of posts I have been writing called "story to share".  It is the last of this series, but not the end of the story. In most ways it is a new beginning for me. But I'm getting ahead of myself.  If you would like to read the other posts in the series, start here.

Though this is my story, the main character of the Story to Share posts is a woman named Jenn Wenzke; coach, mentor, founder of the So Now Professional Network of Women,  and overall, champion of women.

Truly, she championed the woman!

Over and over I have heard women say, Jenn…

saw me
listened to me,
challenged me for more

In his book, Real Artists Don’t Starve, author Jeff Goins calls this kind of person a “patron’.  Often we think of the purpose of a patron is the money they might give to help an artist get started. But this goes way beyond the financial support.

All creative workers need:

  • influencers that will vouch for the artist to an audience who doesn’t know them yet.
  • advocates who see the artist’s potential, believe in their work and give them a chance.
  • The right person/or people to connect the artist to the right people.

We need a patron to not only help us decide what good art is, but also help us succeed. Goins. Click To Tweet

I knew immediately as I read Jeff’s description that Jenn Wenzke was my influencer/ advocate/ chance giver/ connector.

She believed in me, challenged me, and supported me.  She was a cheerleader, an encourager, exhorting me on more than one occasion to quit making excuses and step up to the mic.  She asked me questions others might be afraid to ask and listened deeply as I searched inward for my answers.  She wasn’t afraid to tell me when she thought I was off track.  Jenn was my coach to the core.

She helped me decide what ‘good art’ in my work looks like and then championed me in the doing of it.

Jenn was my patron!

Grateful for our PATRON, Jennifer Wenzke: Kathy with Jenn and Beth Boehr Miller, So Now Business Awards 2016

On June 7, 2017 my friend and mentor, Jenn Wenzke,  died after battling the terrible ALS disease that threatened her body the entire time I knew her.

Our last conversation was at her home several weeks before her death.  She was so fragile, but still had much to say.   We spoke of  her health, her family, and of course the So Now Network..  She knew the legacy of that group was in good hands and felt confident it would continue strong. Her one big regret was that her SO NOW COACHING practice would not.

I asked her how I could help.  She said, “You need to be coaching leaders. “  I don’t know why I hadn’t specifically identified that before, but it suddenly seemed exactly right.

We continued talking for a while, this time about my business and thoughts I had for my future.  I spoke of wanting to create interviews with other women in leadership who could bring value to the women in the GHC community.

Before I got the words out of my mouth, she was  shaking her  head—actually her whole little body in her great big chair.

“NO!” She insisted.  “Your voice. Your message. NOW!”

My breath caught .

I knew this was not just any moment.  This was THE moment.  The moment that summed up all Jenn had been speaking into me since the first Tuesday SO NOW meeting when we met two and a half years earlier.

Be YOU! Do what you do best! Do it Now! Click To Tweet

Her situation with ALS made it apparent that life was short.  Don’t waste a moment!

Her role as my patron had changed. She boldly launched me out to BE ME in the world!

It is time…

To know my value!

To own my voice!

To embrace my story and the message in it!

To get up on my platforms of influence (all different kinds of stages)!

To make my difference!

NOW!

Over and over, I’ve pondered Jenn’s last words.  This is not just a message for me. This is what she has been telling women in many seasons of life. It is Jenn’s challenge to each one of us even now!

This is for all of us who want our lives to count.  

Be YOU! Be In-spired! Make Your Dif'rence NOW! Click To Tweet

I want to be like Jenn- not be Jenn, but like her.  I want to be authentic, a patron of women who grows a movement that empowers women to be their authentic selves and champions others to do the same.

This is a lasting legacy that I want to be part of in every way possible.

Join me!  Be INSPIRED! Be YOU!

Kathy


As a grateful tribute to Jenn Wenzke and all she has done to encourage women in her lifetime, this fall GHC is offering an  8 week ONLINE group called

BE INSPIRED to Make Your Authentic Difference
Use your voice, your message, and your influence NOW!

Registration is open, but space is limited.  Sign up today!

What kind of a patron do you need;  influencer/ advocate/ chance giver/ connector?  May I come alongside you in your journey?

In what ways can you be a champion in the lives of others?

Join me as together we get intentional about

  • hearing and using our own voice
  • embracing our story and sharing our own message
  • stepping up to our opportunities to influence
  • now!  Before life gets away from us!

Go to the BE INSPIRED page!  Sign up today!

Let’s make our difference NOW!

More Story to Share 3

Story to Share 2:The Story Began…

In last week’s blog post (posted above), I started to tell you the story about a woman, a champion, in my life by the name of Jenn.  We talked about our value in that post- yours and mine. The three questions Jenn asked me on our very first meeting were…

Do you know your value?

Do you offer value to those in your world?

Are you getting paid what you are worth?

(If you want to know what we said about that, check the link above to that blog post.)  

But I also said that when I hemmed and hawed with my answers to those questions, the next thing she said to me was,  

When you are done making excuses, you can get down to your business.” 

Yep! That was the bottom line!  I was making excuses about why I wasn’t being successful or seeing the kind of difference I wanted to see. 

Are you doing that- making excuses instead of doing the things you really want to do?  


Isn’t that true of most of us though?  We don’t know our value because we don’t realize who we are.   I thought I did.  I had spent a great deal of time and money going to workshops, reading and researching personalities and strengths seeking to understand, and to help others understand who they were made to be.


We don’t know our value because we don’t realize who we are. Click To Tweet

Yet here I was…
Continue reading More Story to Share 3

Live Out Your Value in 2017

I’m talking a lot about VALUE these days.  Mostly that is because a woman in my life dared to ask me these questions.

Do you know your value?

Do you offer value to the people in your world?

Listen in as I share with you some of my insights this summer as I processed the answers to these questions.  I invite you to answer these questions for yourself.


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Story to Share 2:The Story Began…

Boy, Do I Have a Story to Share!

A few days ago I shared the introduction post above with a promise that I would continue the story.  It is a story of my champion; a woman who walked into my life and made her authentic difference.

I learned much from pondering this story over the summer.  This post is Part 2 of- well, I’m not sure how many more posts it will take to finish the story.  Lean in! Listen close! Continue reading Story to Share 2:The Story Began…

S.N.A.P to Finish

The Fall season is not officially here, but with the start of school, and football games and the cooler temps we’ve been having (at least in Ohio), it feels like fall all over.

But that also reminds me that we are nearing the end of 2017.  Can you believe this year is on the wind down? Doesn’t it seem like we were just setting our goals for the new year?

If you are a goal setter, you might strategically set goals

  • the month,
  • or the quarter or for 90 days at a time
  • or 100 days at a time.
  • or maybe just a wing and a prayer moving through each day as it comes.

I like to look at 100 days at a time (though the ‘wing and a prayer’ has been known to happen on many occasions. )  I especially look at the last 100 days of the year which, if I counted right, actually starts September 23rd.

Or if you save the last week of the year for time with family and friends, or reflection of the old year and planning the new, then the last 100 days of the year start September 16th.

But here’s the thing.

I can spend a lot of time making goals, creating plans, strategizing about next steps and get to the end of the year and wonder…

Is this where I wanted to end up this year?

Or am I trying to do what I think I should do to be who I think I’m supposed to be?

Have I made the kind of difference that I really value most in my own life?  

What questions do you have in your own experience?

Well, that’s why every year about this time Continue reading S.N.A.P to Finish

Boy, Do I Have a Story to Share!

I have been told more than once how amazing it is that I could write my book about my experiences- or create videos that share something I learned on a given day.  “I just don’t have those kind of things happen to me. But it’s nice that you do!

Hmmm? Could it be that I have more things happen to me than you do? I doubt it.  Would God show up in my story more than He would in yours?  I don’t think so.

I don’t have a secret password to get to God.  I have bad things happen just as much as I have good.  Some of you wouldn’t want my story- and I wouldn’t want yours.

But my story Continue reading Boy, Do I Have a Story to Share!

6 Reasons to Be Grateful at a Funeral

I recently attended the funeral, actually, the celebration of life of a 23 year old daughter of a friend.

The uncanny timing of this particular event was not lost on me.  As I sat at this funeral, I was reminded of another that took place just one week shy of 11 years ago- in the same church- led by the same pastor.  It was a funeral I was very much a part of since the life being celebrated was my 15 year old daughter, Leisha. Continue reading 6 Reasons to Be Grateful at a Funeral

Believe Your Dream to Real

Have you ever had a dream of doing something significant?

Have you ever made a plan for doing that significant something, but it just lays on the pages of your notebook or in the files on your computer? 

Me too! I’ve had a lot of ideas that have never come to fruition.  I’ve had notebooks filled with plans and dreams that are still great ideas, but I haven’t yet followed through on them.

But not this time!

Continue reading Believe Your Dream to Real

Two Views from my Thinking Chair!

This week in a Video I made for the GHC community, I challenged you to take time to PAY ATTENTION to what you noticed that struck a chord in the core of who you are. (say that 5 times fast)

Well, I do try to practice what I preach…so this morning I sat in one of my favorite thinking spots and asked myself I noticed about what had happened in my week.

It was quite a week: Continue reading Two Views from my Thinking Chair!