How many times in your marriage relationship have you asked a question that begins with “What if?”
She asks “What if I go to all this effort & he doesn’t notice?”
He asks, “What if I try & she rejects me and says it’s not good enough?”
So many things we decide not to do because of ‘What if?”
But what if we both get serious about this relationship and be willing to do the next hard thing. We want so much for love to be easy, but it’s not. It is hard to humble ourselves and give
Out of love
true love
God given love
That we committed to at some point in our life.
Too often somewhere along the line, one or both of us started living complacent. We became willing to get by
Not addressing the issues
Letting things ride
But under the surface we are starting to feel something
A disappointment
Or an aggravation
Or an anger
That begins to boil
And creates an internal distance
Which eventually becomes a visible distance!
Then it becomes much more difficult to work through than if we faced it right away.
I know- I KNOW- it’s hard!
Ren & I have been married 35 years- WE KNOW!
